Marriage Hard.. AF

Year one in the books! (Happy Anniversary to us!)

2020 said F you, your plans and all your attempts to remain sane!

Everyone asks; When did the honeymoon phase end?

As soon as the ink dried on the license, and Rona reminded us how much me time and space we no longer had and that uncertainty unveils the pettiest side of unconditional love. It was difficult to hear and see relationships fall a part and domestic violence rise but I understood you know…

Ladies, (and gents if you care enough to digest literature to help you love and be loved properly) This is what year one taught me about love and marriage;

The goal is to love the one you picked like you love those you were given. Example, you may fantasize about making Quincy Jones or Diddy your daddy, but they ain’t and at the end of the day, despite the dysfunction, you desire their acceptance, approval and wrestle with understanding how they think.

It’s just like dating accept you aren’t supposed to quit because you promised God. Unfortunately, our behaviors, and ideologies don’t change when we fall in love, or when we say I do or sometimes ever.

You will be disappointed, lied to, disrespected and feel emotionally abandoned on this journey. Sorry for the spoiler. Same as you have likely experienced with family, friends and your own children.

The challenge is in the individual growth necessary to survive the inevitable pain ahead and how that growth impacts your forever bond if you stay the course.

Kinda like 2020, because so many and so much was lost or turned upside down;

If you get back on your feet in fight stance and survive another round, you still have a chance at the title. Then, (like Ali, Rocky, Creed or Iron Man) you forget about your collapsed lung, neurological damage and shortened life expectancy because you have legacy.

Where you previously failed, you can correct in the next round. What rocked your head before, becomes a knock out opportunity later. Or you can be single, get beat up anyway with no title shot and die alone.

Cheers to love!

P.S. My next book is gonna be AA-mazing!!!

Kat